Why Do I Feel Like My Old Self Is Broken? The Systems That Help Rebuild You
- Hannah
- Aug 4
- 2 min read
You weren’t made to run on fear, survival, or shame.
I used to think something in me was broken—like I had a spiritual virus, a faulty blueprint. But the truth is, our systems get glitched by trauma, pressure, and old programming that doesn’t reflect who we were created to be. Ephesians 4:22–24 says it best: “Put off your old self… and put on the new self, created to be like God.” This isn’t just poetry—it’s instruction. And the reset starts deep within.
What this post reveals:
Four foundational healing systems help restore identity and spiritual integrity
Internal Family Systems (IFS) shows us how to lead with our God-reflecting Self
Attachment Theory helps rebuild connection and secure relating
Nervous system regulation (through somatic work) helps restore stability
Mindsets shaped by experience can be renewed by truth and grace
Together, these systems offer a divine re-coding of your inner life
1. Internal Family Systems (IFS): Lead Your Inner Team
IFS teaches us that we are not just one voice—but a whole team of parts trying to protect, perform, or avoid pain. Some parts are exhausted. Some are hidden. Some just want to be seen.
Healing begins when the Self—your calm, curious, God-reflecting core—steps up to lead.
2. Attachment Theory: A Recipe for Connection
Attachment isn’t just psychology—it’s the sourdough starter of your relationships. Formed in early life, these patterns determine how we connect, protect, and respond to love.
Like sourdough, your attachment style can be fed, shaped, and re-cultured. You’re not broken—just working with an inherited recipe.
3. Physiological Systems: Healing the Brain & Nervous System
Your brain and nervous system aren’t just hardware—they’re beautifully adaptive storytellers. Trauma rewires reactions. Chronic stress reshapes signals. But neuroplasticity means healing is possible.
Whether it’s breathwork, movement, or somatic therapies, reclaiming your physiological rhythm is like updating the operating system that runs your whole inner world.
4. Mindsets: Prescription Lenses for Your Reality
We all wear lenses shaped by experience. Some foggy with shame. Some tinted with fear. Mindsets are like glasses—prescriptions that can change. That need to change, if we’re to live as image bearers of God.
Through curiosity and courage, you can trade reaction for revelation—and start seeing clearly again.
Resetting the Systems
These four systems work together like software—IFS for navigation, attachment for connection, physiology for stability, and mindset for clarity. They prepare the internal soil for transformation… so your true code can re-emerge.
You weren’t made to run on fear, performance, or isolation. You were made in the likeness of God—crafted for righteousness, connection, wholeness, and healing.
The old code was glitched by lies. The new code is divine.
Join me each week as we unpack these systems, reflect, and rebuild—together.
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